This morning I asked my boyfriend how he felt about dating a feminist. He said "That's fine. You still not telling me what to do." Thanks Bae.
I began to ponder what toll my defined stance on feminism would have on my relationship. I've worked in different cities, jobs and positions on campus. My boyfriend is distinctly supportive of my personal goals. Early in our relationship he told me "Somebody's gonna get the job- might as well be you."
My relationship is beautiful. Just because I'm Leaning In, doesn't mean Bae needs to bend over. He's a man.
When it comes to leading men, sometimes women don't want to be equal. Many value POWER over influence. Many people hear 'Black Feminist' and assume they are tyrants who want to castrate the men. A woman seeking POWER wants to make all the decisions instead of being a leader. Dear ManEaters, in my experience, a man will accept a women as his leader if he believes that she has their best interest in mind and has a clear vision with defined goals. Show your teammates that you actually listen to them and take their 'expertise' in account with your decision making.
SN: You don't have to be a single to be successful.